Nairobi woman mistakenly shares marriage rules in church Whatsapp group
women, the church and chamas go together.
In the digital age, Whatsapp groups have become a way to chat, run businesses, and a form of day-to-day communication, and the majority of groups now find it easier to engage online than meet in person.
“Mom nani amenunua conspiracy mpya leo (A woman just bought a new plot today),” my wife, Sera, always told me, showing me photos shared in their groups.
“Lidya ameanza biashara mpya, ready alipata (Lidya got a loan and started a new business),” she would disclose.
So when I found her laughing one day, chatting with her friends in their Whatsapp group, I was intrigued.
“I activated my data and imagined 1,000 messages in our church choir. This lady who sings Alto, Maggy, got married a year ago, and I think she mistakenly sent private information about their marriage.
“We’ve tried calling and texting her, but she’s unreachable,” my wife Sera added.
“What’s Happening to Their Marriage?” I was interested.
“I think they had some issues, so she saw a counselor or someone, maybe the pastor, and was counseled on some issues,” she added.
You know, there’s a story my dad used to tell me, about how difficult marriages are after the first two to five years, when the excitement starts to fade.
“At that point, you must be wondering why you got married. People break up for a variety of reasons.
“You fall in love, get married, then realize that happily ever after takes a lot of hard work. After a few years of marriage, the couples find their relationship falters. The marital relationship then turns into cars passing each other on the highways but respecting family schedules,” he advises.
A lady and a man in an argument: modeled by Washington Mito (left) and Cynthia Khanijiri (right).
I went through the same thing with my wife after our first two years.
Young marriages, I tell you, take a lot of dedication and sacrifice.
When people fall in love, they feel like they own the whole world, and then they start arguing about small, simple things.
Why didn’t you put the toothpaste cap back on? Does the toilet paper have to be on a roll so it can be pulled from the back or from the front? Haaa.
Wait, even why are you sleeping without saying goodnight? Why didn’t you call at lunchtime?
So I asked Sera what was troubling her friend and church mate, just a year after her wedding.
“She sent a detailed note here, I guess she was sending it to her sister or someone.”
“Ahhh, that they had problems saving and managing their small business.”
“Look here, reads this note.
I realized that sometimes I brought up how I felt and he dismissed my feelings. He worked so late and missed dinner. A big problem was agreeing on our savings plan. We need to grow our business.
So when we went to ask our parents and our pastor for advice, we agreed on some issues.
We are young and need to work on ourselves, just like you.
First, we openly express our anger and frustration and discuss issues together.
Appreciate each other for the milestones reached.
Open a joint savings account.
Then also get a Business Plus (BSME) loan from our cooperative bank to grow, they have an affordable repayment plan. We must maximize profit.
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“You should see the comments here,” my wife added as we laughed.
But then I paused for a moment and asked her if she had read anything about expanding a business.
“My dad spoke to us last week also saying something about expanding businesses, right?” I asked Sera.
“Yes, huyu hapa anasema (She says) something about the (MSME) Business Plus loan from the cooperative bank,” she added.
I was used to cooperative banks, but not my father. The good thing is that I read further on the bank’s website thatyou can open an SME bank account and then get a Co-op Micro, Small & Medium Enterprise (MSME) Business Plus Loan via MCo-opCash app or via USD*667# and pay for your stock.
I left my wife chatting and immediately called my father to discuss how to expand his farming business.
The good thing was that he visited us and was in the CBD looking for “cash” as he called it.
“Dad, you know via the MCo-opCash App, you can do your banking anytime and anywhere without physically going to the bank. The cooperative claims that loans to MSMEs are affordable. Just visit the nearest cooperative bank and see what they offer,” I texted him.
He sent an emoji and then after an hour said that indeed The cooperative offers a term loan to MSMEs which can be repaid for up to 60 months and biashara fast mobile loans can be accessed through MCo-opCash or *667#.
“Thank you, my son,” he replied.
“You know, actually, your friend’s wedding rules helped us as well. Can we find ours,” I joked with Sera as we walked into the kitchen to make coffee.
“Come on, we’re fine. We have passed this stage. They are young and I hope they fix it soon. She left the group anyway, but we told her it was good to share with us,” she added.
“We all need each other. I remember how I used to call my mom crying, saying you got out of our fight,” she recalled.
“It’s part of life and we grow, make mistakes together,” I replied.
“Hey, are you still hanging out with the kids?” she asked. It was our Sunday afternoon routine.
“Yeah, I don’t want it talked about in your girl group or church,” I joked. “But let me talk to dad first, he seems so excited to have gotten the Term loan for cooperative MSMEs,” I added.
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